BGBGhdrBeing Gay Becoming Gray is a co-creative project set in motion by New Hampshire author Paul S. Boynton. Paul’s personal history, life’s work and belief is that we create our own realities.

This became even more evident through the growing interaction on his thriving Facebook community for his best-selling book Begin with Yes. Through the many connections with others he learned the importance of inspiring people to step into and embrace who they really are. In particular, he began to embrace the reality that the current experience of being gay and growing older needed to, and could be, changed for the better. Toward that end, Being Gay Becoming Gray was set in motion.

The ultimate goal of the Being Gay Becoming Gray project is to redefine the “Gay and Gray” reality by inspiring others to be more, give more, and expect more from life by simply sharing our personal stories and hopeful, beautiful pictures. He believes that by seeing the examples of what others have created in their lives people will be inspired to embrace more and become more themselves.

So read the stories, be inspired, and be more. Then join us in the adventure by sharing your story!


The Being Gay Becoming Gray project was inspired by the amazing artist and photographer Kevin Truong and his fascinating “The Gay Men Project“.  – Thanks Kevin!


  • http://www.veteransforcompassionatecare.org Rick Rosio

    Learning what the concept of “service towards others” really means has been the crossroads in my life… a life filled with both tragedy and failings, and triumph over adversity. This is the story of “Come Laugh With the Dying”.

    When I discovered the healing ability of medical cannabis therapy my personal life changed, and I found that cannabis therapy allowed the suffering to find moments of laughter and relief from their pain. While this form of therapy is still debated in some areas, I am going to tell you the story of my friend Jamie, and his dog Maxwell. Jamie was my youngest cannabis client, a bright-minded young man who lived the majority of his life in a wheelchair, as he had Duchenne muscular dystrophy, a fatal condition for boys who often to not reach the age of 18.

    I was approached by hospice to help the family by providing cannabis therapy for this young man, and I remember the day I went to their home to meet with them after visiting with his physician. I was told he was going to be with us only about 6 weeks, as he was 25 lbs at 17yrs old. He was a shy young man facing a difficult reality, bravely assisted by his beloved mother as his caregiver. I went to meet with Jamie to explain the program and to get to understand the family’s dynamics.

    When I arrived Jamie was in his wheel chair was under the protection of his Jack Russell Terrier, Maxwell, a 3yr old tenacious companion whose sole purpose in life was to protect Jamie. Maxwell barked and wore a shock collar, not really the best match of a companion dog, but he was Jamie’s protector and my nemesis. The second time I came to the house the dog bit my hand and drew blood as I was sitting there. They wanted to get rid of the dog, but I insisted it was my fault and not the dog’s or Jamie’s, and I began a 14 month friendship with the boy in the wheelchair and Maxwell.

    I became the only other interaction Jamie had with the outside world. As I began to spend time with him and Maxwell I asked them to remove the shock collar and I became the dog’s advocate to the parents for Jamie. Never in 14 months did Maxwell allow anyone to touch him other than Jamie. When the last week came, as this brave young man began to aspirate, I came every evening to sit and give the family a break. I would roll large joints for him to be able to breath in and allow himself to find something funny and to laugh with me. He asked me if there was a God and what I thought about God and Heaven – powerful words for a dying young man – and I had to find the right words for him. Imagine the impact if I say the wrong thing. If he doesn’t understand, what am I to say?

    Allow me to share with you my words that day… as I faced this brave young man, who had suffered in pain most of his life, for whom there would be no prom, no love in his life, and his impending death, that when we have a loved one who suffers from illness, those special people find themselves surrounded by others who come to their aid, to help and to learn and grow from the experience. I looked into his eyes and I told this child that his suffering would soon be over, the constant pain gone, and that he would be free from the wheelchair and the pain and that he would have a special place in Heaven. I told him that those that suffering in this life were blessed in the next. This young man, who did not believe in God, asked his mother about Heaven and if there would be “his medicine” there when he got there. She tells the story in her own words http://vimeo.com/70138249.

    On Saturday morning I received the call from Jamie’s mother to come and get Maxwell, as our brave young warrior had lost his battle with MD. Jamie wanted me to have him. I went to the house and this dog who never allowed me to touch him in 14 months came up to me and jumped into my arms and trembled, for he was with Jamie to the end.

    Today Maxwell is my constant companion along with 4 other old service dogs, and he reminds me that it is not impossible to be kind to another and help change the life of someone in just a little way, all you have to do is believe in yourself.

    • Brian

      Touching. Years are rolling

  • http://gravatar.com/ps27b1 Paul

    Beautiful Rick – Thank you for sharing this! Paul

  • https://www.facebook.com/kim.langness Kim Langness

    I enjoy this so much….thank you for the link & the page. I shared this on my face book page.

    • http://gravatar.com/ps27b1 Paul

      Thanks Kim! How about email us a bit of your story and sending alond a few pictures so you can become part of the site? Paul

  • http://facebook/twitter don stanley

    Thank you

  • Blaire Hobbs

    This site is so cool, thank you for being here for suppport for all us older guys

  • http://yesrising.com Richard Silvia

    What is wonderful is that we are all success stories. We have so much to share, to offer, to teach. Our stories are all different and that is why it is important for each to be told…because for some of us, life is not always the images that we see on TV or the dream we had at twenty…and that is ok. Let’s pave the road together. Peace.

  • David Robert

    I love this it’s great to read all the story’s and looking at all the photos ,My soul mate and I have been together 33 years lots of up’s and downs but we keep hanging in I just wished we had more people like the people I see on here in our lives Hugs D”